Controversial Meanings

     'Commandment' seems to be very exhaustive word by itself, though every one will  interpret it differently and will come up with own list of commandments depending on what they believe in or what their experience is. For some the thought of religion will cross their minds meanwhile others can start thinking of hippocratic oath. And in all the same way like there is a variety of lists of commandments there's a variety of ways to understand each statement on its own.

     Well. I guess that was enough of philosophical reflection which beautifully depicts a very wide spread situation 
nowadays - excessive tolerance. And I must underline excessive instance of it. I do not say we don't need to be tolerant at all. What I say - I find myself being sick of its exaggeration and the way it depersonalise us. We are so worried to please 'that one' and the 'other' group of people or so scared to offend some(vague)one that we wipe out our identity. We bound our real thoughts, we place them into a cage and let them die there, because of sick- and pseudo-tolerance which for some reason is more important. And, in my personal opinion, that's a huge fail for humanity in overall. We stop our intellectual processes (thinking!) intentionally. We start decaying and becoming alike, similar, undistinguishable. Tell me, what's easier: raise a philosophy/demagogy with vague declarations pleasing everybody or think of something by yourself and come up with something not so pleasing, but at least genuine and exact, exhausting, with no false-positive statements 
     Why did I underline 'nowadays'? In some sense because of netiquette. And online 
communication in general. World Wide Web made us so close yet so far from each other. We communicate daily with dozens of people online. According to Statista each person spends 2h 23mins on social media daily, interacting with others in this or that way. We chat, we talk, we get new acquaintances, but are we being ourselves while doing that or do we follow  general rules of politeness and etc? Do we create real connections or just formal and polite illusions of them which will disappear when facing truth? 
Many times I have seen how people changed their style, intonation and own thoughts along with them while writing a simple feedback. But what for? To be polite? Not to offend To make a good impression? Oh, right - to be tolerant in general. But what the sense of this tolerance, if it makes the feedback completely useless? If no one says bold truth or something setting up - no changes will appear. But the Internet and its "anonymity" give us all the chances to become appropriate’ for each situation, without hearing or seeing people judge us for being toadies. 
     Speaking of real life xp, here's a story:
Once I was in a camp, and all my friends were telling me they didn't like it. But when they were asked by tutors the average answer was "super cool". Why? They didn't bother to provoke anyone toward thinking about the underlying conditions. They wanted to be polite. And this nonsense wasn't good for both sides: my friends were becoming more and more angry and passive, our tutors ended up overestimating themselves. Zero development, mindset influenced.
And the worst part is: I was doing the same until some point. (yeah, the fact that I am writing this doesn't mean I am not beating in disgust towards myself from time to time because of being passive 'not-thinker')

     In the end, I feel I must repeat again that I am talking about excessive tolerance. Yes, we should respect each other, we should keep silent and speak in appropriate moments, 
and we should make all main characters in movies black lesbian women with humiliated men-minions beside but we must see borders of this and recognise when this turns into being supine before the entire world. We should speak freely, we must argue, sometimes even fight, because we are alive. We think, learn, develop, change. We are different and we must take an advantage of it - we should unite our differences, but that will never happen if we are not who we are. We shouldn't be afraid to be complicated, misunderstood, mistaken. Shouldn't be afraid of pushing away some people, because they might deserve it. What we should be afraid of is becoming stupid grey mass. Be humans, searching for like-minded, but not mindless robots with bunch of connections.
     We should "remember the human". 
     This is how I see the first commandment of netiquette.


  1. And! Feel free to discuss.
    Thought thrives on conflict, Socrates said.

  2. "Do we create real connections or just formal and polite illusions of them which will disappear when facing truth?"
    Very much agree with that one. I can hardly comment generally, since I haven't really observed a pattern, but personally it's a bit of both. In a strictly online setting, there are those I will eventually go and visit in their respective countries, and who will end up becoming as close friends as some strictly IRL, however for many people it will of course say that courteous online friendship, that will fade out with time.
    That same principle can be taken out into the world too: who become friends, who become mere acquaitances one is on good terms with.... Even so, a nice example albeit perhaps controversial: coworkers / classmates, who are actual friends, and who are mere people we appreciate and are on good terms with, but nothing more...

    1. Agree on the last example. That's why we barely tend to keep in touch with our classmates/coworkers even if we had, let's say, very good times together in our main place of interaction.


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